Genesis 2:24, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” When GOD created Adam He made him one flesh. Then GOD saw that Adam needed a partner so He took one of Adam’s ribs and made Eve. Then He joined them together and made them one flesh again. This is the foundation of family.
Single:
Matthew 19:10-12 “His disciples said to Him, ‘If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.’ But He said to them, ‘All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given: for there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother’s womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for The Kingdom of Heaven’s sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it.’”
1 Corinthians 7:7-9 “For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from GOD, one in this manner and another in that. But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: it is good for them if they remain as I am; but if they cannot exercise self control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”
Marriage:
Proverbs 18:22 “He that finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from The LORD.”
Proverbs 5:18-20 “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love. For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, and be embraced in the arms of a seductress?”
Matthew 19:4-6 “And JESUS answered and said to them, ‘Have you not read that He Who made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what GOd has joined together, let not man separate.’”
1 Corinthians 7:1-6 “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me; it is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife,and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband…Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. But I say this as a concession not as a command.”
Husband:
“Husbands, love your wives, just as CHRIST also Loved the Church and gave Himself for her. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one has ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as The LORD does the Church. ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.’” Ephesians 5:25, 28-29, 31, 33
“Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.” Colossians 3:19
“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel, and of being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:7 (Very Important!)
Wife:
“An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness to his bones.” Proverbs 12:4
“And the contentions of a wife are a continual irritation…But a prudent wife is from The LORD.” Proverbs 19:13b-14b
“Who can find a virtuous wife, her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so she will have no lack of gain.She does him good not evil all the days of her life…She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many daughters have done well, but you excel them all.’” Proverbs 31:10-12, 27-29
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to The LORD. For the husband is the head of the wife, as also CHRIST is the Head of the Church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the Church is subject to CHRIST, so let the wives br to their own husbands in everything…and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:22-24, 33
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in The LORD.” Colossians 3:18
“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the Word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe their chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward-arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of GOD. 1 Peter 3:1-4
Children:
Study the examples of Cain and Abel Genesis 4:1-15, both grew up in the same family at the same time, yet one was rebellious and one was obedient. This is both a parenting issue and a personal life choice issue.
Obey-
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which The LORD your GOD is giving you.” Exodus 20:12 (The 5th Commandment - the first with a promise.)
“Children, obey your parents in The LORD, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother,’ which is the first commandment with a promise: ‘that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.’” Ephesians 6:1-3
“Hear, my children, the instruction of a father, and give attention to know understanding; for I give you good doctrine; do not forsake my law. Proverbs 4:1-2
“Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to The LORD.” Colossians 3:20
“Whoever curses his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in deep darkness.” Proverbs 20:20
“Therefore hear me now, my children, and do not depart from the words of my mouth.” Proverbs 5:7
“There is a generation that curses its father, and does not bless its mother.” Proverbs 30:11
“Now therefore, listen to me, my children, for blessed are those who keep my ways. Hear instruction and be wise, and do not disdain it.” Proverbs 8:32-33
“Children’s children are the crown of old men, and the glory of children is their father.” Proverbs 17:6
“A foolish son is the ruin of his father…” Proverbs 19:13a
“The eye that mocks his father, and scorns obedience to his mother, the ravens of the valley will pluck it out, and the young eagles will eat it.” Proverbs 30:17
Parents carry a lot of responsibility-
“Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
“A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children.” Proverbs 13:22 Good parents store up for their children.
“Now for the third time I am ready to come to you, and I will not be burdensome to you; for I do not seek yours, but you. For the children ought not to lay up for the parents, but the parents for the children.” 2 Corinthians 12:14
“He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly.” Proverbs 13:24 (Study in 2 Samuel the results of David’s bad parenting.)
“Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers.” Proverbs 19:14a
“A righteous man walks in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.Proverbs 20:7
“Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell.” (This is discipline not brutality) Proverbs 23:13-14
“And you fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of The LORD.” Ephesians 6:4
“The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice, and he who begets a wise child will delight in him. Let your father and mother be glad, and let her who bore you rejoice.” Proverbs 23:24-25
“Father’s do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” Colossians 3:21
“The rod and rebuke give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.” Proverbs 29:15
“Whoever receives one little child like this in My Name receives Me. But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in the depths of the sea.” Matthew 18:5-6
“For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. “ 1 Corinthians 7:14
“I rejoiced greatly that I have found some of your children walking in Truth, as we received commandment from The Father.” 2 John vs.4
Divorce:
“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she find no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, when she has departed from his house, and goes and becomes another man’s wife, if the latter husband detests her and writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her as his wife, then her former husband must not take her back to be his wife after she has been defiled; for this is a detestable thing before The LORD, and you shall not bring sin on the land which The LORD your GOD in giving you as an inheritance.” Deuteronomy 24:1-4
“Furthermore, it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ but I say to you whoever divorces his wife for any reason except for sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.” Matthew 5:31-32
“Now it came to pass…great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them. The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, saying to HIm, ‘Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?’ And He answered and said to them, ‘Have you not read that He Who made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”? So then they are no longer two but one flesh.Therefore what GOD has joined together let no man separate.’ They said then, ‘Why did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?’ He said to them, ‘Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery, and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” Matthew 19:1-9 (Notice how here JESUS expands Matthew 5:31-32 to include the divorced man who remarries as an adulterer.) Also see Mark 10:1-12.
“Now to the married I command, yet not I but The LORD: a wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled with her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. But to the rest I, not The LORD, say; If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. But if the unbeliever departs, let them depart; a brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases. But GOD has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?” 1 Corinthians 7:10-16
